It’s Thursday and I’m full of sadness because my grandmother passed away earlier this week and I’m not the same person I was before. I don’t want to be this person because this person doesn’t have his grandmother in his life, but I cannot go back. So I have to go forward, and the way I choose to go forward is to yell into the void and hope it doesn’t destroy me.
I love you, Grandma, and I’ll miss you forever, but I have to talk about other things or I’ll go insane with sadness.
So this is the penultimate Motivational post for the year. There’s not much left to say except hopefully “see you at the finish line” but I’ll say some other stuff anyway.
There aren’t many naysayers in my life, partly because I don’t allow those people to enter into my life for longer than it takes to realize those people are going to be negative.
I’m not saying there are no people who are brutally honest, or people who will be frank with me when something isn’t quite working out. I’m saying that there are people in this world that believe accomplishments cannot be achieved, or that you specifically will not be able to do something, and they try to fill your head with that naysaying bullshit. “You’re never going to be a doctor, it’s too hard” is something no one ever told me when it was what I wanted to be when I grew up. I was told that it was incredibly difficult and I was going to have to study very hard and get good grades and do a lot of things I’d rather not do.
I ultimately decided against it, obviously. But it wasn’t because I was ever told I wasn’t good enough, or smart enough, or fast enough to do something. It was because I understood that it wasn’t what I was going to be passionate about after another year. There were other things. Other choices, other hobbies, other paths. Maybe I could have become a banker, or a lawyer, or a physicist, or an accountant, or any number of things that I was either latently good at or interested in at one point in my life, but it was never because I was told I couldn’t do it that I decided not to do it.
That’s an important distinction to make, but there are people I know that it’s like their whole entire world is telling other people what they can’t do. And that’s a horrible way to be. If someone tells you that you can’t be something that other people are, or even that other people aren’t, that person needs to be removed from your life. If it’s your parents, or siblings, or teachers, or coaches, or whatever. If you’re passionate about it, if you love it, you have to do whatever it takes. You can’t let people dictate to you what you can or cannot do. You are the wielder of your own fate, the master of your own destiny, and to let anyone else tell you that you might as well quit because you’ll never be good enough is a mistake and one you’ll vaguely regret the rest of your life.
So forget the naysayers. Get them out of your life and keep chasing that impossible dream. Make it possible. Make it as possible as you possibly can, because that’s better than quitting because someone else told you to.
Fuck the naysayers and write the hell on.